Have the two of you been thinking about entering the hotwife lifestyle, but are not sure if it is for you? Let’s look at many questions both of you should be answering together while you explore the possibilities of becoming a hotwife couple.
Before we get into the questions, I want to mention that there are many degrees and variations of hotwifing. Some may be for the two of you, while some may not.
Let’s move on and look at the first question you both should truthfully answer and discuss. Is your relationship strong enough for hotwifing?
Is Your Relationship Strong Enough for Hotwifing?
This has to be the most important question the two of you need to really think about and explore. Is the relationship between the two of you strong enough for both of you to really enjoy the hotwife lifestyle? Hotwifing can enhance a strong relationship but destroy a weak one.
Some couples that are having relationship problems think that hotwifing may solve them and help to mend their ailing relationship. This is the absolute worst reason to explore the hotwife lifestyle. You don’t want to add stress to a relationship that is already having problems. It just won’t work out well for both of you.
Hotwifing should only be approached as a means to enhance an existing strong relationship. You want the hotwife lifestyle to be something that both of you can explore and share new experiences together.
So, if your current relationship is not rock solid, take time to improve your relationship before even considering the hotwife lifestyle.
Can the Two of You Keep Love and Sex Separate?
Can both of you keep love and sex separate? To be successful in the hotwife lifestyle, this is very important. You both need to fully understand what love really is and what sex really is.
Sex is of course, used for procreation, but it’s also used for recreational purposes. Sex is had by many just for the pure pleasure it can bring.
Love is a deep emotion and a bonding between two or more people. Love is not sex. Sex is not love. But when combined, it can be magical.
Sexual attraction is not love. Infatuation is not love. I hope you are getting my point. Love and sex are two distinct things. They are not one in the same.
In the hotwife lifestyle, you will find that the woman can enjoy sex with other men more than she does with her husband. That does not mean she loves the other men more that her husband. She can also find that she has sex with other men that are not as enjoyable as having sex with her husband. The bottom line here, is some people are better at sex than others, while some are not as good at sex as others.
Let’s go even further. Some women will think one guy is great in bed, while other women think the same guy is not very good in bed at all. It’s all in the mind of the beholder.
If just one of you thinks love and sex are the same, I would recommend that you don’t enter the hotwife lifestyle. There is just too big of a chance that one of you will grow to resent the other one.
Now, here comes the exception to what I just stated. If the two of you are polyamorous, your relationship could possibly improve by having additional love interests. A single woman could take on multiple male love interests, and still love her husband. Of course, that is if he can handle a relationship of this nature.
Are the Two of You Very Secure With Yourselves?
The hotwife lifestyle is a lot more enjoyable, and successful if both of you are very secure with yourselves. I’ll give you some examples to help explain this.
Most people want to think they can satisfy their partner in bed better than any other person because they know them better. Let’s take a look at reality for a second. When hotwifing, you will find sexual partners that can bring the hotwife to orgasm faster, and last longer in bed than her regular partner. You will also find the opposite.
The hotwife will learn new sexual techniques that she finds extremely enjoyable. If you are both secure, she can tell her partner about these techniques so he can learn how to perform them with her. She will also discover new sexual techniques she does not like, or only likes with her partner.
The newness feeling of having sex with someone for the first time, or first several times, can be extremely exciting, and more enjoyable than sex with your partner. This newness factor is completely normal but can cause someone that is not secure with themselves to doubt their abilities to please his hotwife.
If either of you is not secure with themselves, it would be best to work on that before you dive into the hotwife lifestyle.
Do You and Your Partner Trust Each Other Fully?
The hotwife lifestyle requires that both partners really trust each other fully. The hotwife lifestyle can rip apart a couple very quickly if they don’t trust each other completely.
If you set any limits or rules concerning hotwifing, can you fully trust your partner not to exceed those limits or break any rules? Hotwifing can quickly move from a great lifestyle to cheating, if the trust is not mutual.
Complete trust in each other is a big factor you should consider to help determine if the hotwife lifestyle is really a good fit for the two of you.
Are the Two of You the Jealous Type?
Are one or both of you the jealous type? If either one of you is, the hotwife lifestyle could cause extreme problems in your relationship. I’m not talking about getting a little jealous. I am talking about getting overly jealous that leads to resentment or fighting.
Can the man handle the woman getting a lot more sexual attention from other men? Can he handle seeing another man coming on to his wife? Or seeing her flirt with another man?
Do either of you ever worry about your partner leaving you for someone else? A hotwife may have many boyfriends that they become very close to. Can the man handle this without getting overly jealous?
If either partner becomes overly jealous, it can take all the fun and excitement out of hotwifing.
Any jealousy tendencies need to be worked out long before entering the hotwife lifestyle. If the jealousy tendency can’t be worked through, then the hotwife lifestyle is most likely not for either of you.
Have You Researched the Benefits of Hotwifing?
Have the two of you really researched and looked into the many benefits of the hotwife lifestyle? If you haven’t, it’s best to really learn as much about hotwifing to make sure you both can really benefit from it.
If you have, list out the benefits each of you like. Once you have done that, compare each other’s lists. Does it appear that your partner is looking for benefits that you personally don’t have an issue or problem with?
Do both of you feel the other partner will benefit from the hotwife lifestyle? Or does it appear to be a one-way street where only one of you really benefits from hotwifing?
Have the Two of You Ever Been Swingers?
Have both or either of you been in the swinger lifestyle now or in the past? If you have, the transition or addition of the hotwife lifestyle may be a lot easier since you already know what to expect when your partner has sex with someone other than you.
If you have not been swingers, you may want to explore that lifestyle too. Then decide if either the hotwife lifestyle or swinger lifestyle is a better fit for the two of you. You could also do what many couples do. They practice and live both lifestyles. Combining both lifestyles affords you the benefit of having a lot more sex options.
The wife could even go to a swingers club with one of her bulls, while the husband waits at home waiting to reclaim her once she returns home to him.
Does the Husband Enjoy Watching or Thinking About His Wife Having Sex With Other Men?
If the husband really enjoys watching his wife have sex with other men, or enjoys just thinking about her having sex with someone besides himself, hotwifing may be a good fit for the two of you if the wife of course, wants to have sex with other men.
The wife could have sex with other men while the husband watches, and possibly joins in. Or she could have sex with other men without him being present. And, then tell him all the details of the sexual encounter, while he is reclaiming her.
If the husband does not like watching her have sex with other men, or at least hearing about it, the hotwife lifestyle may not be the best choice for the two of you. Unless the husband benefits in other ways from his wife having extra marital sexual encounters with other men.
Can the Two of You Be Open and Honest With Each Other About Your Sexual Needs and Desires?
Can both of you be totally open and honest about your individual sexual needs and desires? Is it easy to tell your spouse what you need or may be lacking as far as sex goes?
Both of you need to be able to tell the other about any specific sexual needs or desires you have without fear of the other partner just blowing it off.
In order for the hotwife lifestyle to work, both the wife and the husband need to have their sexual needs filled.
Can the Wife Openly and Honestly Talk to Her Husband About Her Sexual Encounters?
For a better chance at the hotwife lifestyle working out for both of you, the wife needs to be able to easily and honestly talk to her husband about the different sexual encounters she has. She should even let her husband know when she flirts with other men or is flirted with.
Did the wife try something new when having sex with one of her bulls? Or learned something that really got her off? She should tell her husband about these things in as much detail as she can.
Did she have a bad sexual encounter with another man? The husband should be made aware of this.
Constant and open communications with her husband about all of her sexual encounters with other men and women is a key factor for having a strong and enjoyable hotwife lifestyle.
Are You Both Clear About What Each Other Wants out of the Hotwife Lifestyle?
Do both of you know what you want from the hotwife lifestyle? Have the two of you communicated your wants and desires to each other? Do both of you agree with what each other wants to get out of the hotwife lifestyle?
If you have any conflicting desires like, she wants to go out on dates with her bulls alone, but he wants to be present when she has sex with another man. Can the two of you come to some type of compromise or deal that benefits you both?
Lay it all out on the table concerning exactly what you want to get out of hotwifing, before you enter the hotwife lifestyle.
Does the Husband Feel Compersion for His Wife?
Compersion may be a new term for you. It’s basically when someone enjoys watching or knowing someone else is enjoying themselves. They receive enjoyment from other’s enjoyment. Compersion can also be described as being happy because someone else is happy.
An example of compersion in the hotwife lifestyle is when the man enjoys seeing or hearing about the wife receiving pleasure from another man.
Compersion can be one of the main benefits the husband can receive from the hotwife lifestyle.
Does the husband in your relationship feel compersion for his wife during other activities? The feeling of compersion is extremely important in a hotwife relationship. It is what drives the husband to encourage and support her extramarital sexual encounters with other men, and to keep jealousy and envy at bay.
Can the Husband Handle His Wife Having Sex With Someone Else When He Is Not Present?
Can the husband handle the wife having sex with someone else when he is not present? If he can, the hotwife lifestyle will offer a lot more opportunities for the wife. If not, all is not lost.
If the husband can handle the wife having sex with another man while he watches or joins in but can’t handle her having sex with another man without him being present, the hotwife lifestyle could still be very enjoyable for both of you with just setting some limits.
Many couples enter the hotwife lifestyle with her just having sex with another man while he watches or joins in. Then, over time, the husband may start to see and want the benefits for his wife and himself that having sex with other men without him being present can bring.
Can the Husband Deal With Envy if It Shows Up?
First, don’t confuse envy with jealousy. These are two distinctly different emotions. Envy is when something upsets you because you feel someone else can do what you want to do better. You get envious of them. Jealousy is the fear of losing something or someone to another person. Be careful never to confuse these two emotions.
Now, let’s move on to the actual question. Can the husband deal with envy when it shows up? Here are some examples of envy that the husband may face in the hotwife lifestyle.
A bull has a much larger penis than he does.
A bull seems to satisfy your wife sexually better than you do.
Your wife has more vocal orgasms with other men.
Can the husband deal with getting envious of other men from time to time?
Can the Husband Deal With the Woman’s First Date Excitement?
Remember the excitement and butterflies you felt when going out with someone for the very first time? Well, a hotwife can have those same excited feelings when she is getting ready for a first date with a new bull. Can the husband deal with and accept her having these feelings each time she dates someone new?
One way to help the husband to deal with these emotions she is having is for him to be active and share her excitement with her. One way to do this is for the husband to help her get ready for any of her solo dates with bulls. He can also help her prepare for double dates with one of her bulls and her husband.
So, this is aimed at the husbands. Can you deal with and enjoy your wife being excited about going out with a new bull for the first time?
Can the Husband Deal With Feeling Left Out From Time to Time?
You may have not even considered this one. Can the husband deal with the feeling of being left out? Sometimes when the man hears about all the fun the hotwife is having without him being present, he can feel like he is being left out. This is actually a normal feeling and can be reduced.
The important thing is to make sure the two of you communicate very well about what is happening and how you are feeling while living the hotwife lifestyle. The hotwife has to always keep in mind that she needs to keep the husband informed and included in some way most of the time. Even with the best made plans, he will feel left out from time to time.
Can the husband deal with having this feeling on occasion? If not, the hotwife lifestyle may not be for you.
Do You Have a Plan or Exit Plan to Deal With Unexpected Jealousy?
The husband may feel he would never get jealous of the hotwife’s bulls, but sadly, especially with new couples to the hotwife lifestyle, this can happen. When the husband starts seeing or hearing about her spending time with her bulls, he may become jealous and fear that he may lose her to one of them. Even if this is far from the case, he can become extremely jealous unexpectedly.
The two of you need an exit plan, or a good plan about how to deal with unexpected jealousy. Sit down and really talk about this subject. You want the hotwife lifestyle to expand your existing relationship, not replace it, or destroy it.
Make plans about how to handle different degrees and intensities of unexpected jealousy before entering the hotwife lifestyle. The lifestyle is not worth ruining your relationship over.
Have You Made a Plan to Deal With Any Unexpected Pregnancy?
Even if the hotwife takes precautions like having the bull use condoms, her being on the birth control pill, or some other form of birth control, there is always a chance that she could get pregnant. A condom could slip, or a bull decides to take off the condom without her knowledge. A condom could also break. The hotwife and her bulls could even be using multiple methods of birth control, and still get pregnant.
I know this can be a sticky subject that many like to just ignore and pretend that it just won’t happen to them. But women get pregnant unexpectedly all the time.
Have the two of you really sat down and discussed what you would want to do if you find that she did get pregnant by another man? If not, you need to have this talk before you decide if the hotwife lifestyle is for you.
Do the Two of You Want to Spice up Your Sex Life?
When a couple has been together for a long time, let’s face a little reality for a moment. Couples tend to get in a rut with their sex lives. They do the same thing over and over. It almost becomes a choir. People that do the same thing over and over, also tend to get bored from the repetitiveness. Does this describe your current sex life?
Hotwifing can inject newness, excitement, and thrills into your existing sex life with your partner. It can turn your bedroom into an exciting place, like it was when the two of you first met.
Many couples in the hotwife lifestyle say that hotwifing has brought the fire back to their bedroom. Many also claim that the sex they have with their partner becomes much more intense and exhilarating. Especially when the man reclaims his wife when she returns home from a date with one of her bulls. As the hotwife, just imagine having high energy, and thrilling sex, twice in one night. With two different men.
So, do the two of you want to spice up your existing sex life? If you do, and everything else seems to be a good fit for the two of you, maybe you should try out hotwifing.
