When exploring or participating in the hotwife lifestyle, you will come across a lot of terms and abbreviations you may not be familiar with. I have gathered the most popular hotwife lifestyle terms and abbreviations for you in this article. Here they are, in no particular order.
Hotwife
The original definition of a hotwife in its purest form is when a married woman has sex with men other than her husband with the support and approval of her husband.
Some sources mention that the original meaning of the term hotwife includes a one-sided open relationship where the woman has sex with other men while the husband does not have extramarital sex with other women.
The meaning of the term hotwife has changed over the years. The swinger community started using the term hotwife to mean any woman that has sex with other men besides her husband.
The term hotwife now, also includes girlfriends, and in some cases single women.
The hotwife term has also expanded over the years to encompass many sexual situations and sexual lifestyles beyond just a married couple where the woman plays with others while the man may or may not.
The term hotwife has also expanded to couples that have threesomes with another man.
Bull
The term bull refers to the label used to refer to a man, that is not her husband, that is having sex with a hotwife. A hotwife’s relationship with a bull is usually purely sexual and rarely has an emotional connection. The bull is there just to bring pleasure to the hotwife.
One warning though. Be careful when using the term bull. Porn has morphed and abused the term bull to mean a single male that is being used for sex because the wife no longer is satisfied with her husband. This usually includes ridiculing and demeaning the husband as sexually inadequate. This is not the true meaning of the term bull. And, in most cases, if a bull acted like this without the wishes of both the hotwife and husband, he would quickly be shown the door.
The true meaning of the term bull refers to a virile overly endowed man that is in very good shape and has very good stamina in bed.
Vixen
A vixen hotwife enjoys the hotwife lifestyle with her husband included in the actual sex. The husband either watches her having sex with other men or participates in the sexual encounter. MFM threesomes are extremely popular with vixen stag couples.
If you are attending a swingers club that has a hotwife night, you will most likely encounter way more vixen hotwifes than pure hotwifes.
Stag
The term stag refers to a vixen hotwife’s husband. A stag usually gets sexual enjoyment from sexually sharing his wife with other men. In a vixen stag relationship, the stag is always the main point of focus by the vixen even when she his having sex with a buck or bull.
Buck
The term buck refers to a man that is having sex with a vixen. A buck fully understands that he has been invited to have sex with the vixen by both the vixen and her husband known as the stag. A good buck is very respectful and grateful to be included. Normally a good friendship is formed between the buck, hotwife vixen, and the stag.
Cuckold, Cuck, Cuckolding
The term cuck or cuckolding is actually a respectful kink were the man enjoys watching his wife have sex with other men. Then, along came the alt-right and the porn industry and morphed the terms into what most people think when they hear them.
Here is what cuckolding has basically morphed into.
A cuckold is a husband that is married to a dominant hotwife that is into humiliating him by having sex with bulls without him being allowed to join in. She may also have sex with other men without him knowing until later and then flaunting it in front of him. Some men like this arrangement because it gives them the freedom to not have any responsibility of control or having to take care of anything. The hotwife takes total control in a cuckold relationship.
One warning. Be very careful when you hear a couple is a cuckold couple. They could be referring to the original meaning and not the negative meaning. If you consider yourself a bull, make sure you understand the couple’s definition of a cuck before getting involved with them. DO NOT ASSUME their definition is the negative one.
Hothusband
The term hothusband refers to a husband that has an open relationship that is many times one sided. It’s basically the male version of the hotwife. He normally has the freedom to have sex with other women with his wife’s OK and encouragement. You won’t hear this term used as much, but it will come up from time to time.
Date
You will hear the term date used frequently in the hotwife lifestyle. This usually refers to the hotwife going out with a bull on an actual date. Occasionally you may hear the term double date. This refers to the hotwife going out on a date with either two bulls, or one bull and her husband.
Dates usually consist of going out to dinner or a nightclub for drinks and dancing. A hotwife date normally ends up with her and her bull having sex.
If the hotwife is going out with a bull alone, sometimes the husband helps her to get ready for her date.
If a husband does not go out on the date with her, he usually waits at home to reclaim her on her return from the date.
Reclaim
Reclaim or reclaiming refers to when the hotwife returns home from a date with a bull and the husband has sex with the hotwife. He is reclaiming her as his wife. You will also hear it referred to as reclaiming sex.
Usually reclaiming sex is very passionate and intense.
Cheating
The term cheating can actually have several different meanings, depending on the source and context it is used.
The typical textbook definition, cheating is when someone has sex with someone other than their sexual partner without their knowledge or consent. Porn seems to love to portray the hotwife lifestyle as cheating.
When used referring to a hotwife, cheating is simply a glorified term used to label her having sex with someone besides her husband, even though he has encouraged it and does not have any problems with her having sex with others.
Simply put, if a wife is truly cheating on her husband, she is not in the hotwife lifestyle.
Jealousy
Hopefully you will never feel this emotion. Jealousy is the fear of losing someone to another person. It’s usually caused by one partner feeling they have control and ownership over the other. If either of you are the jealous type, the hotwife lifestyle is probably not for you.
Comperssion
When one partner feels enjoyment from seeing or hearing about the other partner’s sexual enjoyment, they are feeling compersion. Compersion comes in many intensities. From simply feeling happy for your partner, to full on emotional enjoyment and expression.
The husband in a hotwife lifestyle usually feels some form of compersion when he watches his wife enjoying sex with one of her bulls. Or hears her telling him about the sexual experience she just had with a bull.
Ethical Non-Monogamy
Ethical non-monogamy is a blanket term that includes the wide variety of open relationships and partial open relationships that permit one of more members of a couple or poly group to have sex and emotional relationships with others beside their main partner.
This includes open relationships and sexually open relationships.
Open Relationship
The term open relationship will be heard frequently in the hotwife lifestyle. It’s also used by swingers and polygamous people. But, depending on the context it is used in, it can mean many things.
It’s typically used by couples that are not monogamists. It can mean anything from having sex with other people besides your partner to having emotional and romantic attachments with others.
Sexually Open
The term sexually open is usually what most hotwife couples mean when they say they have an open relationship. It’s the freedom to have sex with others as long as an emotional attachment or romance is left out of the equation.
In the hotwife lifestyle, SOMETIMES it’s only the woman that is sexually open while the man is not.
Swinging
You will probably hear the term swinging used in the hotwife lifestyle. Swinging is basically couples swapping partners for sex. Many in the hotwife lifestyle also participate in swinging. You will find a lot of crossover between the two lifestyles.
Threesome
A threesome is when three people have sex together. They come in many varieties. The most popular threesome you will find in the hotwife lifestyle is when two men have sex with the hotwife at the same time. It could consist of her having sex with two of her bulls at the same time, or with her bull and her husband at the same time.
Throuple
You occasionally may hear the term throuple being used in the hotwife lifestyle. A throuple is basically a threesome with an emotional attachment between the three.
Sometimes the hotwife may form emotional attachments with one of her bulls and the couple invites him into her and her husband’s relationship.
At other times, the term throuple is simply used as a term of a double date or a typical threesome that does not have an emotional element.
Gangbang
Some hotwifes love the attention of a lot of men at the same time. This is when the gangbang comes in handy. A gangbang is when a woman, in this case, a hotwife has sex with many men at the same time. The gangbang may or may not include the husband of the hotwife.
Some hotwife husbands actually plan gangbangs and select bulls to pleasure his wife at the same time as the center of attention of a gangbang.
Most gangbangs are not like the ones you see in porn. They are for giving the hotwife sexual pleasure. Not physically being violent and degrading the woman like you see in many porns. So, if you are a bull and are invited to participate in a gangbang, forget everything you learned from gangbang porn.
Greedy Girl Party
A greedy girl party is an event where a large number of males are allowed to attend. The intention of a greedy girl party is to give the hotwife a place to meet and select as many bulls as she wants sexual attention from. These parties usually are similar to swinger clubs. They have a main party area, and sexual playrooms.
Greedy girl parties give the hotwife opportunities to have one-on-one sex with a bull of her choice, threesomes, pull trains, group sex, join origes, or even be the center of attention in a gangbang.
Greedy girl parties are usually attended by the hotwife alone or accompanied by her husband.
Running of the Bulls
You will see hotwife and swinger party announcements that refer to the running of the bulls from time to time. These parties are designed for the hotwife. Single males are allowed to attend these parties. They are also normally paraded through the party for all the hotwifes that attended to be able to check them all out.
These types of parties are great for hotwifes looking to add more bulls to their collection of single guys.
BBC
BBC stands for big black cock. In the hotwife lifestyle it refers to a black bull that is well-endowed. Many hotwifes enjoy having sex with well endowed black men.
BWC
BWC stands for big white cock. It refers to a white male that is well endowed. Some hotwifes prefer the sexual company of men with larger than normal cocks. In this case a white male with a large cock.
QOS
QOS stands for queen of spades. In the hotwife lifestyle it refers to a hotwife that prefers or just enjoys the sexual company of black men.
MFM
MFM is an abbreviation used for a threesome between one woman and two men. In this type of threesome, the men have sex with the hotwife but do not have sex with each other.
MMF
MMF is an abbreviation used for a threesome between one woman and two men. In this type of threesome, the men have sex with the hotwife and also have sex with each other. Some hotwifes enjoy watching two men have sex with each other while also receiving pleasure from both of them.
Creampie
A creampie is when one or more men ejaculate inside the woman. It gets its name creampie by the appearance of cream flowing out of the filled pussy.
Some hotwife relationships practice what is called creampie cleanup. This is when the bull or husband eats the woman after they or another man has cum inside her. This practice is much more prevalent in the cuckold lifestyle.
Fluid-Bonded
The term fluid-bonded is when a couple or a hotwife and one of her bulls intentionally do not use condoms. Many times, the hotwife and her husband are fluid-bonded while the hotwife and her bulls are not.
Breeding
Breeding is when a bull is allowed to cum inside the hotwife with the hotwife and husband’s approval. Some couples get a taboo rush from knowing she could be impregnated by another man besides her husband, either unintentionally or deliberately.
