You may have just recently heard of the hotwife lifestyle or have known about it for some time but are not sure exactly what it is. We’ll be exploring what the hotwife lifestyle is all about.
Let’s start off our exploration of the hotwife lifestyle by answering the following question.
What is a hotwife?
What Is a Hotwife?
Let’s start off by defining what a hotwife is in the traditional sense. Of course, the definition has changed drastically over the years. We’ll look at that aspect of what a hotwife is a little later.
Here is the basic original and traditional definition of the term hotwife.
A hotwife is a married woman that has sexual relations outside her marriage with the full approval, support and encouragement of her husband.
For many couples in the hotwife lifestyle, this is the only definition of a hotwife. They also tend to ignore or not accept the more modern day hotwife definitions.
Some sources add to the above definition of a hotwife to include a marriage with a one-sided open relationship where the wife has the freedom to have sex with other men besides her husband, but the man is not allowed or chooses not to have sex with other women besides his wife.
Now that you know the original definition of the term hotwife, let’s move on and explore a brief history of the hotwife lifestyle.
A Quick History of the Hotwife Lifestyle
Going to keep this history lesson very brief to not bore you. Also, the actual history of the hotwife lifestyle is confusing and is up for some major debate. The only thing that pretty much everyone agrees on is that the actual hotwife lifestyle has been around long before the actual term hotwife was coined and first used.
The term hotwife was most likely used before it first started being used online. As best that can be determined the hotwife term started to appear online being used by swingers and non-monogamous couples sometime in the mid-1990s. It started appearing on swinger and exhibitionist message boards. Later in the 1990s it started appearing in personal sex and swinger ads and involved men sharing their wives.
You can read through history and see mentions of men sharing their wives with other men a long way back. Were these couples practicing the hotwife lifestyle?
We may really never know exactly when the hotwife lifestyle started. What we do know is that it’s been around for a very long time.
What Is the Definition of a Hotwife Today?
The question about what is considered a hotwife today, is actually a loaded question. You could ask a lot of people and get a lot of different answers. The label or term hotwife has morphed and expanded greatly over the years to include many definitions and nuances. I’ll just cover the most popular definitions of a hotwife. That way this introduction to the hotwife lifestyle does not turn into a book.
Here are the most popular definitions and nuances of a what a hotwife is considered today. Of course, depending on who you ask.
Some feel a hotwife can only be a married woman. Because a married woman having sex outside her marriage can bring on a taboo feeling, while a girlfriend having sex with other guys besides her boyfriend is just dating or playing the field. Others feel that a girlfriend that is in a serious relationship with one man can be considered a hotwife if she has sex with other men.
A single unmarried woman that does not have a steady boyfriend can also be considered a hotwife by some. That is, if she has sex with multiple men. Of course, most will just consider her as playing the field. In a case like this, the hotwife term is more of a badge, than a lifestyle.
In the swinger community, a partnered woman that enjoys MFM threesomes or having sex with other men besides her partner is considered by many swingers to be a hotwife.
Many believe a woman that is in a serious relationship and has sex with other men with the approval and encouragement of her partner is a hotwife. This is regardless of her being married or not.
Some people may consider the woman of an open relationship to be a hotwife. But many do not, unless it is a full disclosure open relationship.
Many traditionalists will only consider a woman a hotwife is if she has sex with other men besides her partner, while he does not. Basically, a one-sided open relationship.
The bottom line is, when you hear someone being labeled a hotwife, don’t jump to conclusions as to the exact meaning of the term. As you can see now, it can have many different meanings and nuances.
Popular Hotwife Lifestyle Practices
The hotwife lifestyle has changed, morphed, and expanded over the years. And so has the sex practices hotwifes enjoy in the lifestyle. Let’s explore the most popular sex practices hotwifes enjoy today.
One Sided Open Relationship – Some couples in the hotwife lifestyle prefer having a one-sided open relationship where the woman is free to have sex with others outside of her marriage while the man prefers to not seek outside sexual relationships. These one-sided open relationships can be private or full disclosure. In a private open relationship, she does not necessarily discuss with her husband who she dates or has sex with. In a full disclosure relationship, she does tell her husband about her sexual encounters she has outside of the marriage.
Full Open Relationship – Some couples in the hotwife lifestyle have full open relationships. They are both free to have sex with anyone they want. These full open relationships can be closed where neither talk about their sexual encounters with others, or full disclosure where they do talk about their sexual encounters outside the marriage with each other.
Dating Other Men – Many hotwifes enjoy the freedom to date other men besides their husband. Many men in this type of hotwife relationship actually encourage her to date other men. Some even help her to get ready for her dates. Some even help her to find men to date.
Public Flirting – Many hotwife couples enjoy the practice of public flirting. The hotwife will go out to a bar, park, store, etc. and flirt with other men. Many do this with their husbands present or watching from a distance. It’s a nice little game they play to spice up their sex life, or even to pick up other men.
MFM Threesomes – Threesomes where two men have sex with the hotwife at the same time are extremely popular in the hotwife lifestyle. These MFM threesomes can include the husband and one of her bulls or be between her and two of her bulls.
Gangbangs – Many hotiwfes enjoy the sexual attention of multiple men at the same time. They enjoy the sensory overload of having multiple men pleasuring them sexually at the same time.
Voyeur / Exhibitionist – In some hotwife relationships, the husband gets his enjoyment from watching his wife having sex with other men. Some hotwifes even film their sexual encounters to show to their husband at a later time.
Husband Watches and Then Joins In – On many occasions, the hotwife will have sex with another man, or men, while the husband watches. He then after a while joins in the sex.
Reclaiming Sex – Reclaiming sex is when the husband has sex with the hotwife after she has had sex with another man, or group of men. Most claim that this sex and the act of him reclaiming his wife is some of the best sex they have.
Hotwife Selects Bulls – Many hotwife relationships, the hotwife selects the men she has sex with.
Husband Selects Bulls – Some hotwife couples the man selects the men for her or assists with selecting them.
Side Boyfriend – In some hotwife relationships, the woman has one or more steady boyfriends that she dates or sees on a regular basis. Some will also do other activities besides just sex with these boyfriends. Think friends with benefits.
Part Time Hotwife – Being a part time hotwife is extremely popular, especially with the swinger crowd. A part time hotwife enjoys the hotwife lifestyle on an occasional or special occasion basis.
Benefits of the Hotwife Lifestyle
The hotwife lifestyle has many benefits for the hotwife and her husband. A hotwife gets to experience many things most married women can’t. In fact, there are so many benefits you could write a book just describing them. So, we’ll stick to the most popular benefits of hotwifing in this article.
Experience First Date Excitement Over and Over – Remember that excited feeling you got when you first started dating someone new? Not knowing what to expect, or what was going to happen on the first date? Let’s not forget the excitement of first-time sex with someone. A hotwife gets to experience first date excitement over and over.
New Shared Experiences – The hotwife lifestyle can create more new experiences than you can imagine. Just to name a few; hunting for new single guys, going on dates in new locations, seducing, being seduced, new sexual encounters, exploring new kinks, and a whole lot more.
Visit New and Exciting Places – Hotwifing also can lead to the excitement of going to new places and having sex in new exciting locations. The hotwife may be taken to dinner at a new restaurant she has never been to. And, the next day, go boating with a different guy. Then the following week be taken to a fancy hotel. A hotwife can also have the opportunity to visit other far away locations or even other countries.
Being Able To Flirt With Other Men – Many women love to flirt. The hotwife has the freedom to flirt, and act on her flirting. She can go out and flirt with other men like she was single again. If she feels like having a one-night stand, she is free to do so. Most hotwifes can even flirt with other men with her husband close by as her safety net.
Remove Society’s Leash – As we grow up, we are brainwashed by society to believe what society wants us to believe; including how we act, and what we do in our own private bedrooms. Society does not want us to be individual free thinkers.
Hotwifing can help to cut society’s leash and hold on us. This frees the two of you to do what you want, when you want, with whoever you want, sexually. It allows the naughty fun side to come out and play. Cutting the tight society leash can lead to you doing what you want consensually in the bedroom. It also allows you to explore new and exciting kinks without the worry of what society may think.
Can Bring Out Her Wild Side – Hotwifing can bring out the sexually adventurous side in a woman. Most hotwifes become a lot more experimental, and open to new sexual experiences. She becomes more open about her sexual needs and desires. This sexual wild side can even spill into other parts of her life.
Ability to Explore Your Deepest Kinks – The hotwife lifestyle can give a woman the freedom to explore even her deepest sexual kinks. She may even have a kink that her husband has no interest in that she can explore with other men or women. Hotwifing also exposes them to kinks of other men that they never even thought of trying before.
Feel More Sexually Desirable – The hotwife lifestyle can make a woman feel a lot more sexually desirable simply by the attention she receives from multiple men flirting with her. Hotwifing is a great ego booster for her. A side benefit from feeling more sexually desirable is that women tend to take better care of themselves when they feel sexy. This leads to even more men flirting with her. This pattern can go on and on.
Increased Sex Drive – Boredom in the bedroom or doing the same thing over and over can eat away at anyone’s sex drive. Hotwifing can help to reignite a person’s sex drive by experiencing new and exciting sexual things. This can work for the husband also, through sexual tension build up from knowing or seeing her with another man.
Experience Compersion – Many men feel a sense of pleasure from seeing his wife really enjoying sex or even just being flirted with. This feeling is known as compersion. Compersion is pretty much the opposite of jealousy. The hotwife lifestyle gives the husband many opportunities to feel the deep emotion of compersion.
Bring Back Excitement to Your Bedroom – Many couples when they have been together for a long time tend to get stuck in a rut. They do the same thing over and over in the bedroom. This leads to boredom and lack of excitement.
The hotwife lifestyle can bring the excitement back to the bedroom. They both learn new ways to pleasure each other. She can learn new ways to pleasure men and also learn new things that pleasure her from her bulls.
Sex becomes a lot more varied and can take on a renewed or totally new bedroom life.
Experience More Passionate Sex – Reclaiming sex is when the man has sex with his wife after she has had sex with another man, or just gone out on a date. Most howife couples find the act of the man reclaiming his wife to be very passionate and very energetic.
The hotwife also receives benefit from seeing the renewed passion in her husband. Plus, she gets to have great sex multiple times in a single day if she desires.
Reclaiming sex can be very raw, intense, and extremely passionate. The husband competing with other males seems to bring this out.
Learn And Experience New Sex Techniques – Most people have specific sex moves that they enjoy and are good at. A hotwife gets to experience different sex techniques from as many men as she desires. Some of the new sex techniques she experiences will be extremely enjoyable to her. She can bring the new sex techniques she loves back to the bedroom for her and her husband to experiment with and enjoy.
A Closer Relationship With Your Husband – Many couples find that the hotwife lifestyle actually brings them closer together. They find themselves being a lot more open with each other. Many couples find themselves having much more intimate talks, and even bringing up fantasies they have been afraid to share in the past.
You could even find yourselves becoming much more than lovers. You could find the two of you building a deep friendship.
Increase Trust – The hotwife lifestyle can build deeper trust in each other. You’ll find that the two of you will become much more open with each other. This helps to build a stronger trust between the two of you. You may find that you are talking about a lot more personal subjects without judgment or fear of offending your partner or being rejected by them.
The hotwife lifestyle could even help the two of you build a relationship with no secrets, no worries about the other one cheating, and open each other up to not suppressing your desires.
Misconceptions About the Hotwife Lifestyle
Due to the porn industry and certain groups the hotwife lifestyle has been portrayed in bad light and has risen to many misconceptions about the hotwife lifestyle. Some by just not really knowing what the lifestyle is about and others deliberately.
If you have watched any hotwife porn, you will see that many so called hotwife porn videos portray the wife as cheating on her husband. Cheating and hotwifing are not the same. Hotwifing is not cheating, no matter how much they portray it that way.
The porn industry also portrays hotwifing as cuckolding. These are two very distinct lifestyles. Some hotwife relationships may enjoy a little cuckolding from time to time. But, if a woman cuckolds her husband all the time, she is not a hotwife. She is living the cuckolding lifestyle. The hotwife lifestyle is not cuckolding.
Some people think a hotwife has sex with other men because her husband is not any good in bed and can’t please her sexually. This is very far from the truth. A couple enters the hotwife lifestyle to add to their sexual relationship. Not take from it. Just ask about any hotwife how the sex is when her husband reclaims her after she has been with another man. Many will say it’s some of the best sex she and her husband have.
You will also here that a hotwife never has sex with her husband. This is far from the truth unless the husband has some type of physical or mental handicap preventing him from having sex.
Why the Hotwife Lifestyle Is Growing Rapidly
The popularity of the hotwife lifestyle has been growing rapidly over the last several years. I do believe I should clarify one thing before we get into some of the more popular reasons for the lifestyle’s growth.
Much of the growth of the hotwife lifestyle is because of the term hotwife morphing and expanding to encompass more than its original meaning. A lot of this growth is due to swinger clubs jumping on the band wagon and holding hotwife style parties. You will even see swinger clubs having parties named something like the running of the bulls, or greedy girl parties. These are all aimed at couples that practice the hotwife lifestyle.
Now that I have that out of the way. Let’s look at some of the other reasons for the sudden growth and interest in the hotwife lifestyle.
One of the big reasons for the hotwife lifestyle growth is more and more women are discovering that they crave and enjoy sexual freedom, and that they enjoy exploring their sexuality.
Some women are discovering that they thrive on the thrill and excitement of seducing men. It’s a great ego booster to them.
Many women enter the hotwife lifestyle to get that feeling back they had on first dates, and when having sex with someone for the first time.
Many men are discovering the emotion of compersion. They discover that it makes them extremely happy when they see their wife being flirted with or enjoying sex with another man or men.
Many couples are starting to realize the difference between sex and love. This opens up the possibilities to have sex with many people but still maintain the love for just one.
Many women are taking charge of their sex lives. They are discovering that they actually have a huge sexual appetite that society had been suppressing.
Many men are finding that their love and passion grows when they reclaim their wife from a date with another man. They are finding that the sex between them and their wife is much more intense, and raw.
