Today the label bull is worn and loved by some and hated or even despised by others. This is due to the confusion, misuse and misunderstanding of the term bull. Over the years the term bull has become a catch-all label for any man the hotwife has sex with, other than her husband. The term bull is in modern times used to mean something completely different than what the term originally represented.
This article will explore what the term bull can mean, or what it’s being used to describe, and how it is frequently misused. Let me warn you, a lot of the sections in this article are going to overlap, and even mildly contradict each other on occasions. That’s just how confusing the term bull can truly be. So be prepared to go down the proverbial rabbit hole and feel your head spinning at times.
Let’s start off by looking at the original or close to the original definition of the term bull that could be found. Hold on tight. This is going to be a wild and confusing ride.
The Original Definition of the Label Bull
Let’s start off by looking at the original definition of the label bull. At least within the hotwife context. The definition of “bull” refers to a dominant male that has sexual encounters with a hotwife. The bull would maintain a purely physical relationship with the hotwife, without any emotional attachment to her. The bull is used by the hotwife for strictly sexual pleasure. The original definition of the label bull also inferred that the bull was an alpha male that was superior to the hotwife’s husband. It also inferred that the hotwife’s husband was a cuckolded husband. The term bull draws from animal symbolism, evoking a strong virile male. The bull was seen by the hotwife as a counterpart to her cuckolded husband that she holds an emotional bond with. Notice the term cuckolded husband in this original definition of a hotwife bull. We will refer back to this throughout this article.
The Historical Roots of the Label Bull
Let’s briefly touch on the historical roots of the label bull before we move on. The historical roots of the label bull, as far as can be determined, first emerged in the swinger and hotwife scene sometime in the early 2000s. Possibly in the late 1990s. It was built on the cuckoldry tropes from the Renaissance times where deceived husbands were mocked and ridiculed with bull horn imagery symbolizing virility that was stolen by a rival alpha male.
Cuckold insults go back as far as we can tell, to the 13th-century Old French era. Cuckold was linked to the cuckoo birds laying eggs in other’s nests. The bull being the intruding male in adult sexual dynamics.
Evolution of the Label Bull From Its Original Core Meaning
Now let’s explore the evolution of the label bull from its original “Core Meaning” and how its original meaning has morphed throughout the years to its more modern definition.
Early uses emphasized the bull’s role as a temporary, high-performing sexual provider who “services” the hotwife and departs. He often has some alpha traits like confidence and physical prowess. This dynamic is distinct from polyamory or emotional secondaries, focusing instead on strictly fantasy fulfillment for the couple or hotwife.
Today’s use of the term bull has changed in some circles to basically mean a single male that has sex with a hotwife. This is a dangerous definition that can cause issues for the single male that does not know the proper use of the term bull and simply labels himself as one. Let’s move on so you can see why.
When Is It Typically Proper to Use the Term Bull in the Hotwife Lifestyle?
As you will soon discover, this is a very difficult question to answer. We will do our best to answer this question though. Let’s first dive in and look at what the hotwife lifestyle community currently feels is proper use of the term bull.
In the hotwife lifestyle community, the most prominent current definition of the term or label “bull” specifically refers to a dominant male partner who engages in sexual activity with a hotwife, typically with her husband’s knowledge and consent.
This is a very lose definition of the term bull that is not accurate or inaccurate. It’s basically a redefinition of the original term bull to be of a broader nature and move it away from cuckoldry, except in hotwife porn movies and single males that don’t truly understand the hotwife lifestyle dynamic.
It it also currently used by some to label any single man that is invited into the couple’s dynamic purely for sexual encounters and using it only sometimes to emphasize his alpha traits like confidence and sexual prowess, without any emotional attachment to the hotwife or vixen. Be aware that not everyone agrees with these loose-fitting definitions though.
So, even though it may be proper to use the term bull when describing a single male, the hotwife community does not agree with this as a whole. It’s always best to be careful how you label yourself as a single male. The label bull may be fine with some, but not everyone in the lifestyle. Are you confused now?
Some Key Contexts for Use of the Label Bull
The context the label bull is used in is extremely important. This is where a lot of confusion and misuse of the term bull happens. Using the wrong definition of it in a specific context. Let’s look at the most popular contexts the label bull is used in on a daily basis.
Hotwife: In the hotwife lifestyle the term bull is used by some to label a male, other than the hotwife’s husband that she has sex with. Most of the time the husband does not actively participate in her sexual encounters with a bull. Some husbands do on occasion enjoy watching his wife having sex with her bull either in person or through video. The hotwife lifestyle almost always does not have any form of cuckolding of the husband like how it’s misrepresented in hotwife porn. If it does have any cuckolding, it’s usually only minor and done by the wife, and not the bull.
Vixen/Stag: The term bull is used by some vixen/stag couples to refer to the single males; other than her husband she has sex with. But most vixen/stag couples prefer to refer to these single men as bucks. In a vixen/stag relationship the husband usually participates in some form. Most of the time this takes place with the vixen having sex with her bull and her husband in a threesome. Sometimes vixen/stag husbands enjoy watching the vixen have sex with her bull or buck and then possibly joining in and forming a threesome.
Cuckolding: When you hear the term bull being used, many times it is being used to label a single male that has sexual encounters with the wife of a cuckolding couple. Cuckolding usually involves some type of humiliation aimed towards the woman’s husband. In a cuckolding relationship the bull is usually considered a far superior sexual partner than her husband. Humiliation can be minimal to extreme, done by the wife, bull, or both. Even the hotwife lifestyle can have some mild cuckolding but is much less than a true cuckolding couple.
Swinger: Swinger couples that enjoy MFM threesomes sometimes use the term bull to label the single male they invited to have sex with the wife. Most of the time, swingers just use the term playmate, extra guy, etc.
BDSM: In the BDSM lifestyle the term bull usually refers to a dominant male to a submissive woman that may or may not be married or even in a relationship.
If you are unsure of what context the term bull is being used, it’s almost always best to not use the term bull as a label for a single male. This way you don’t accidentally infer a meaning to the term bull that is not correct in the current context.
Usage Nuances of the Label Bull Within the Hotwife Lifestyle
One thing we need to keep in mind at all times is that the term bull originates from slang to label the dominant male counterpart to the cuckold husband. We need to be careful when using the term bull that we are using it properly. Let’s ask ourselves this question. If the husband is not a cuckold, should the wife’s sexual partners be called something else besides bulls?
People that truly respect and understand the nuances of the hotwife lifestyle would answer yes to the question above. A hotwife dynamic without cuckold elements like humiliation of submission of her husband, the wife’s sexual partners are often called something else besides bulls. This helps to avoid implying dominance over the wife’s husband.
That leads us to another question. What should a hotwife’s sexual partners actually be called when the hotwife and her husband are not in a cuckold relationship?
Some Preferred Alternatives for the Label Bull in the Hotwife Lifestyle
In the pure hotwife lifestyle where there is no cuckolding, the hotwife usually prefers a neutral term like date, guest, boyfriend, or no label at all.
In vixen/stag hotwife relationship, the additional male is usually referred to as a playmate, lover, or simply single men. The reason the term bull is not widely used is because the husband is considered equal to the additional man and is not submissive.
In a hotwife relationship where the husband is cuckolded and considered inferior to the hotwife’s boyfriend, then the term bull is appropriate to use.
If you are unsure of the proper term to use, it’s usually safer to use just about any other term besides bull.
Why Differentiate the Term Bull at All?
Many communities and individuals push back against the term bull, frequently due to the negative stereotypes portrayed in porn. Especially hotwife porn. Most porn portrays a wife with her so called bull humiliating the husband as being inferior and how he can’t satisfy his wife. In real life, the hotwife lifestyle is nothing like what you see in most so called hotwife porn that in reality is extreme cuckold porn.
By being careful when using the term bull, you show respect to the different sexual lifestyle dynamics and show clear communication over the term bull when it is properly used. Most couples and lifestyles except the cuckold lifestyle prefer less rigid labels for the additional males brought into a sexual encounter. The bottom line is that you need to understand the term bull and when it’s appropriate to use it. Don’t just label every single guy a bull in all situations. You will just run into trouble doing that.
Typical Definitions of the Term Bull as Used in the Hotwife Lifestyle
Even though some definitions of a bull are contradictory and not always widely accepted, you will still run into them from time to time. Even location and setting can change the meaning of the term bull. Confused yet? Let’s get even more confused.
Here are the most common evolving and possibly misused definitions of the term bull you’ll see:
Pure Hotwife Dynamic
You will frequently hear the term bull being used to label a hotwife’s non-husband sex partner. These encounters usually happen with her husband’s full knowledge and consent. These encounters can take place with or without the husband present. The relationship is usually sexual and has no emotional bonding of the bull and the hotwife. Even though this is not the proper use of the term bull, it is widely an accepted one.
Hotwife Cuckold Dynamic
The term bull is used the same as in the pure hotwife dynamic, with the addition of humiliation of the husband aspects as inferior to the bull and that the husband can’t satisfy the hotwife’s sexual cravings without the addition of a superior dominant single male sex partner.
Whatever you do, just don’t confuse the use of the term bull between pure hotwife dynamics and hotwife cuckold dynamics use. These two dynamics are not interchangeable. Let me repeat, do not confuse them or use them interchangeably.
Dominant or BDSM-Leaning Hotwife Dynamic
A dominant or dom bull is a single male who assumes an assertive, controlling, aggressive, or BDSM-oriented role. This type of bull usually involves a power exchange dynamic that can include bondage, spanking, humiliation, or pain, within pre-agreed boundaries with the submissive hotwife. The husband may participate as a sub or in a supporting role.
Scripted Hotwife Sexual Encounter Dynamic
This is similar to role-playing. It’s when a hotwife sexual encounter is scripted out where the single male’s actions are bound by explicit rules. The scripted role-playing scene is discussed and agreed upon before the sexual encounter happens. These scripted scenes are usually based on a fantasy the hotwife has. This could be a hotwife scripted scene or a cuckold scripted scene. In scripted hotwife sexual encounters the single male is usually referred to as a bull. Basically, the single male is role playing whatever the hotwife wants him to be.
Other Hotwife Expanding Dynamics
While exploring or visiting online lifestyle communities, like hotwife, swinger, polyamory, and sexual related sites, you will see the term bull being used in totally different situations carrying different definitions. Most will be using the term bull in an extremely broad context. You need to really get to know each community to determine how they are using the term bull. Even separate hotwife communities may have adopted their own definition of what a bull is. Be careful not to come to the wrong conclusions and use the term bull in a way that the community does not like it being used.
Final Thoughts
As you should not be aware, the definition of the term bull is highly situational. The term bull can mean different things to different couples, communities, and regions of the world. It can also mean completely different things depending on the context it is used in.
When using the term bull, very clear communication is extremely essential. Make sure you fully understand any and all defined boundaries, consent, and dynamics the term bull is being used in.
The term bull does carry a stereotype or power dynamic that can be very offensive to some, while perfectly fine and even desired by others. The bottom line is, make sure you are using the term bull appropriately in the situation you are using it. If you are unsure, just don’t use it at all.
If your head is not spinning and confused, read this article again.
