Meeting new prospective bulls for the first time can be exciting but also stressful because of all the uncertainties and expectations. These one-on-one first-time meetings can quickly become very awkward encounters. Enter the mini hotwife meet and greet to save the day and make the hotwife the center of attention.

Let’s start off by looking at exactly what a mini hotwife meet and greet is.

What is a Mini Hotwife Meet and Greet?

A mini hotwife meet and greet is similar to a running of the bulls swinger club event except it is tailored to the needs and desires of a single hotwife. If you have ever been to a regular swinger meet and greet, a mini hotwife meet and greet is very similar but on a much smaller scale. It’s a small get together that the hotwife or her husband arranges for her to meet a small number of prospective bulls or bucks. From here on when I mention the term bull, I am referring to both bulls and bucks. These events are usually held at bars or nightclubs but can be held in other locations. We’ll get into where to hold a mini hotwife meet and greet shortly.

Now that you have a basic idea of what a mini hotwife meet and greet is, let’s move on and look at why you should be holding mini hotwife meet and greets instead of just meeting a new prospective bull one-on-one for the first time.

Why Hold Mini Hotwife Meet and Greets Instead of Meeting New Bulls One-On-One for the First Time?

There are many reasons to hold a mini hotwife meet and greet instead of just meeting a stranger one-on-one for the first time. Let’s take a look at some of the most popular and beneficial reasons.

Meeting new bulls that you met online for the first time many times does not always go as planned. Some flake out and don’t show, others show, and you quickly realize the pictures you looked at of them are very old and that they don’t look anything like the pictures.

Some bulls that show, assume the two of you are going to have sex, regardless of if the two of you hit it off or not. You will also run into bulls that are extremely aggressive and just won’t take no for an answer.

You have better security if you are meeting with multiple new bulls at the same time. If one gets overly aggressive or starts causing problems, you have the other men there to help calm the situation.

Meeting multiple prospective bulls at the same time leads to much less of a chance of having a bad first date. You actually get to see which bulls you actually hit it off with even before the first real date.

Also, what if you meet a bull and you just don’t get along with them? How do you just say goodbye and exit? If you are holding a mini hotwife meet and greet, you can simply start mingling with the other bulls you invited. You are the host, and of course, should not give all your attention to a single bull. You should mingle with all of your guests. This is a lot more comfortable when you have many guests, instead of just one.

Since your focus is not on one bull, your experience with meeting people usually goes a lot smoother and is less stressful. You have not committed to any one bull, and it’s actually just a mini party you invited a lot of guys to attend.

Let’s now move on to the importance of where you actually hold your mini hotwife meet and greet.

Where to Hold a Mini Hotwife Meet and Greet

Hotwife lifestyle mini meet and greets can be held at several different locations, depending on your needs and security concerns. Here is a list of places you could easily hold a mini swinger meet and greet. All of these locations, except the last one, can be local or out of town if you have privacy concerns.

Bar or Nightclub: Personally, I feel the best place to hold a mini hotwife meet and greet is at a bar or nightclub. People are expected to be socializing and flirting. So, you and your guests will blend right into the crowd. Well, with a lot of guys flirting with you, you could stand out a little. If the bar or nightclub has a dance floor, you can easily get one-on-one time with each bull by just asking them to dance.

When selecting a bar or nightclub, make sure it is not too loud so that you and your prospective bulls can really talk and get to know each other. Or the place at least has an area that is quieter. A bar or nightclub with an indoor and outdoor area usually works the best.

Restaurant: If you have a very small group of prospective bulls, meeting at a restaurant for dinner could work well. If you hit it off with one or more of them, you can always head to a bar or nightclub after dinner.

Hotel Bar: A hotel bar can make a perfect place for your mini hotwife meet and greet. They are usually quiet, intimate, and not too busy. Plus, if you are in the mood to play, you can always get a room at the hotel and invitd any of the bulls you find yourself attracted to back to your hotel room to continue the party.

If you are wanting to hold a mini hotwife meet and greet out of town, the hotel bar is the perfect location. Just book a room at the hotel. This gives you a great place to get ready for your party and a great place to entertain any prospective bulls you hit it off with after the meet and greet is over.

Hotel Room: If you are into voyeurism or exhibitionism, a hotel room could be a great choice for a mini hotwife meet and greet. It’s an extremely intimate and private location. Just don’t be surprised if everyone gets along, that you become the center of attention of a spontaneous gangbang.

I think you would be better off not holding a mini hotwife meet and greet in a hotel room until you have held several at public locations though.

Your Home: You could hold a mini hotwife meet and greet at your home, but I would advise against it. Inviting a group of total strangers into your home could be disastrous. Someone could damage something of value to you, steal from you, case your home to break in later, get extremely aggressive, etc. I’m sure you get the idea. Plus, do you really want everyone to know where you live? If you have any security or privacy concerns, scratch this one off your list. Save it for having private hotwife parties where you already know all the bulls you invite very well.

Now that we have discussed where to hold a mini hotwife meet and greet, let’s explore how to actually set one up.

How to Set Up a Mini Hotwife Meet and Greet

The best place to set up a mini hotwife meet and greets is at one of the top swinger/hotwife lifestyle members only sites. I’ll show you how to set up a mini hotwife meet and greet on SDC and SLS. But first, let’s look at how to write the event description so it’s not confused as a public event or a commercial party. The reason for this is that most sites do not allow self-promotion of commercial events. You need to word the description so the person that reviews your hotwife meet and greet realizes it is a private event and not being put on by a business.

Here is a sample description that should help you with creating your own:

“I am/we are looking to get together for drinks at a local bar with a few select single males. Looking to find new bulls to possibly date. Send me/us a private message if you would like to meet me/us.”

The wording like “I/we” in the above description would be changed to reflect just the hotwife holding the meet and greet or if the husband will also be attending.

Notice how the sample description did not mention a party, meet and greet or an event.

Let’s do a quick step-by-step walk-through placing a “Speed Date” on SDC first.

  1. Login to SDC.
  2. Click on Speed Date in the menu.
  3. On the Speed Date page, click on the “+ Speed Date” button.
  4. Read the current Speed Date rules. At the time of publishing this article they were:

You can only post one Speed Date at a time.
You can post it up to 2 weeks in advance.
Do not post an ad for a party, product, or service.
Posts must be personal in nature.
Do not mention any outside sources of communication. That includes email, phone, Kik, etc. Only use the SDC messaging for direct communication.

  1. Select the type of Speed Date. For a mini hotwife meet and greet select either “Private Place” or “Public Place.”
  2. Select the date of your mini hotwife meet and greet.
  3. Select who you will be inviting. Check all that apply. “Couple Female/Male”, “Female”, “Male”, “Transgender”
  4. Enter what city and state it will be held.
  5. Enter your detailed description of the Speed Date. The size limit is currently 250 characters.
  6. Double check that you entered everything correctly.
  7. Click on the “Post Speed Date” button.
  8. Once your Speed Date is approved by SDC it will be posted and viewable by all SDC members.

Now, let’s do a quick step-by-step walk-through placing a “Hot Date” on SLS.

  1. Login to SLS.
  2. Click on Hot Date in the menu.
  3. On the Hot Date page, click on “Create Hot Date.”
  4. Read the current Hot Date rules. At the time of publishing this article they were:

No advertising.
No outside contact info.
No reference to gangbangs.
No illegal activity.
No commercial Hot Date postings are allowed.

  1. Enter the date of your mini hotwife meet and greet.
  2. Select who you want to invite. Select all that apply. Couple (M/F), Single Female, Single Male.
  3. Enter the age range you want your guests to be within.
  4. Enter location of the mini hotwife meet and greet. City and Postal Code.
  5. Enter the mini hotwife meet and greet event description.
  6. Double check everything you entered about your mini hotwife meet and greet event.
  7. Click on the “Submit” button.
  8. After SLS reviews and approves your Hot Date it will be posted for all SLS members that meet your selection criteria to see.

You will want to place your hot date or speed date several days before it is planned to take place.

Now that you know how to set up a mini hotwife meet and greet, let’s look at who you should invite.

Who to Invite to a Mini Hotwife Meet and Greet

With the extreme number of single guys wanting to meet a hotwife, you most likely will have way more responses from prospective bulls than you can handle or would even want to handle. The hard part is going to be narrowing down your large list of guys to a comfortable number to invite to your mini hotwife meet and greet. You will also have to take into consideration the place you will be holding your meet and greet. Don’t go overboard and invite too many bulls. You want to keep your mini hotwife meet and greet small, but not too small.

As the responses come in from prospective bulls, go visit their profiles and read them thoroughly. Also look at all of their pictures closely. Ask yourself these questions as you go through all of their profiles. Does this guy look interesting to you? Would you like to meet him? Does looking at his pictures make you bite your bottom lip? If so, write down their username. Do not invite them just yet. If you have no interest in them, or even if they are just mediocre, just pass them over. You don’t have to invite everyone that asks to come to your hotwife meet and greet.

A few days before your planned hotwife meet and greet, go through your list of possible bulls to invite and narrow it down to a little more than the number you want to attend. This will allow for a few no shows. Once you have your desired guest list, start messaging them with information about the mini hotwife meet and greet. Make sure you include the place, time and include a picture of you dressed the way you will be hosting the event. This is so they can easily find you. Also mention that if they can’t attend, please let you know so you can invite someone else. Also ask them to confirm they will be coming.

Now that you have selected your guest list and invited the prospective bulls you would like to meet to your mini hotwife meet and greet, let’s explore what your husband’s role will be concerning your mini hotwife meet and greet next.

Your Husbands Role at Your Mini Hotwife Meet and Greet

Are you going to set up the mini hotwife meet and greet and attend it alone? Or are you going to put your husband to work? Is he going to attend the meet and greet? Or is he going to stay home? Let’s explore the different possibilities concerning how much or how little involvement he will have with your mini hotwife meet and greet. A lot will depend on if you and your husband are in a pure hotwife relationship, a stag/vixen hotwife relationship, or somewhere in the middle.

Will your husband help with selecting the prospective bulls to attend your mini hotwife meet and greet? Or will you be making the selections alone? If you trust your husband’s judgment, you could even have him make the selections of prospective bulls to attend your meet and greet so you are surprised by the guest selection as they arrive.

You will need to decide is if your husband will attend the mini hotwife meet and greet or not. If he attends, will he help you with selecting prospective bulls for you to date? Will he mingle with guests by your side, or alone? Another option is to have your husband attend the event incognito. He could pretend that he is just another person at the bar or nightclub. He could observe from a distance but be close by if he is needed.

If your husband attends, will he have veto power over any prospective bull selections you make? Or will that be your sole decision?

You will find that there are many benefits to having him attend, and many benefits to not having him attend. You will need to weigh the good and bad of each to make your final decision concerning his attendance.

If you are a stag/vixen hotwife couple, it would probably be best that he attend the meet and greet and be by your side most of the night. If you are a pure hotwife couple, you may benefit more from him not attending.

Let’s move on and discuss security at your mini hotwife meet and greet. Especially if your husband will not be attending the event.

Security at Your Mini Hotwife Meet and Greet

You want to have fun, but you also want to be safe when meeting prospective bulls. Especially when you will be meeting several for the first time. I highly recommend you always hold your mini hotwife meet and greet in a public place like a bar or nightclub. Most of them have bouncers or a means to deal with an unruly patron.

If you personally know a bartender, bouncer, or club owner, you could tell them about your meet and greet and ask them to keep an eye out for you. This way if something happens, you have someone that can intervene or at least call the police.

If you have been a hotwife for a good amount of time and have several regular bulls that you date from time to time, you could even ask them to attend and be your security. The plus side of this is if you don’t meet a new bull that you like, you still have some old standbys available.

Now that we have explored security for your mini hotwife meet and greet, let’s look at some tips for having a successful mini hotwife meet and greet next.

Tips for Having a Successful Mini Hotwife Meet and Greet

I’m sure you will want your mini hotwife meet and greet to go well, and for you and your prospective bulls to have fun. Here are some tips that can help you to have a successful and enjoyable mini hotwife meet and greet.

Don’t be afraid to skip over someone that you don’t have an interest in. Only invite males that you are physically attracted to.

Make sure you mingle with all of your invited guests. Don’t let one prospective bull dominate your time. You want to get to know all of the guys, not just one or two of them.

Make sure you greet each guest as soon as they arrive or as soon as possible.

After the meet and greet has been going on for a while and you have mingled with all of your guests, it’s OK to start gravitating and spending more time with any prospective bulls you are hitting it off with well and are attracted to. After all, this is a hotwife mini meet and greet for the hotwife to hopefully find new guys to date.

Let’s now move on and discuss some of the problems that can pop up while hosting a mini hotwife meet and greet.

Problems You May Encounter While Holding a Mini Hotwife Meet and Greet

One thing you will need to understand is that a lot of people will say they are going to come to your meet and greet and not show up. This is just the nature of some people. So, don’t freak out if on occasion you have nobody show up for your mini hotwife meet and greet. It’s just part of the game.

One of your party guests may drink too much and get drunk. Consider getting them a taxi to take them home.

You may encounter a prospective bull that gets sexually aggressive. If that happens, you may want to ask them to leave or get them tossed from the location you are holding your mini hotwife meet and greet. If you are in a bar or nightclub, you can usually alert the bouncer.

It is possible that the venue manager or owner discovers your group is a hotwife lifestyle group and has a personal problem with that. They may even ask you to leave. Hopefully this will never happen, just be prepared for it if it does.

You may have one of your guests complain about another guest. Decide beforehand how you will handle a situation like this.

The venue may come to you complaining about a guest being, let’s say, a little too flamboyant. Be prepared to talk to your guest and get them to act more appropriately or ask them to leave.

Whenever you put a group of guys together competing for a single woman’s attention, you will most likely get some chest thumping and one guy trying to run off another. In situations like this, it may be best to ask them to leave. Be prepared to have the venue toss them or possibly even call the police if physical aggression breaks out between any of your prospective bulls.

Final Thoughts About Mini Hotwife Meet and Greets

I hope I explained the benefits of holding mini meet and greets over meeting someone new one-on-one for the first time. Can you see the power of the mini hotwife meet and greet? If I did not cover the subject well enough, please feel free to use our contact form and send me any questions you still have. I’ll be happy to do my best to answer them.

Now sit down and start planning out your very first mini hotwife meet and greet. Have fun and happy hotwifing!