The hotwife lifestyle and its various sex dynamics is often misunderstood by people not in a hotwife relationship. This causes a number of misconceptions about the lifestyle in general. Hotwife porn which is mostly cuckold porn and not hotwifing has fed the hotwife lifestyle misconception fires big time.
Let’s explore 16 of the most common hotwife lifestyle misconceptions that are heard all the time.
Hotwifing Is Just Cheating on Your Husband
Many people outside the hotwife lifestyle assume and think that hotwifing is nothing more than cheating you your husband. In reality, this is far from the truth. Hotwifing is not a form of cheating or infidelity.
The hotwife lifestyle is built on mutual consent and open communications between the hotwife and her husband. They establish boundaries and rules about her hotwifing together. All hotwifing experiences are conducted with the knowledge and full agreement of both the husband and wife.
Cheating involves secrecy and broken trust, while the hotwife lifestyle is based on agreed-upon boundaries and mutual respect for each other.
There can be fantasy elements of the wife cheating on the husband for the thrill and excitement. But even this is really not cheating on the husband. It’s nothing more than a fantasy game being played between the husband and wife.
A Hotwife Is Nothing More Than a Dirty Slut and Will Have Sex With Anyone
You would not believe how many people, especially single males, believe that a hotwife is nothing but a dirty slut that will fuck anyone. Does a hotwife enjoy sex? Of course she does. But a hotwife can have single and married men lined up around the block for her to choose from. She does not have to settle for just any guy. She can and usually is very selective and only dates the cream of the crop.
In reality, finding a good bull for the hotwife can be a long and tedious process, since she does not have to settle for any old guy. She will look for one that she is truly sexually attracted to and enjoys being around. Since finding a good bull can take time, many women get their husbands involved with helping to find suitable guys for her to even consider dating. A new prospective bull can be required to go through a lengthy vetting process to make sure that the wife will enjoy dating him and be safe.
Hotwife Couples Are Just Unhappy With Their Marriage
A common myth is that couples enter the hotwife lifestyle because they are dissatisfied with or have problems with their marriage. The truth is, many couples that enter the hotwife lifestyle find that it actually strengthens trust, improves communication skills between the two of them, and sparks intimacy in an already sound marriage. Many couples enter the hotwife lifestyle from a place of security, not desperation to turn an unhappy marriage into a happy one.
When a couple has an unhappy marriage or is having relationship issues, entering the hotwife lifestyle can intensify the relationship issues to the point it totally destroys their marriage.
The Hotwife Lifestyle Is Just About Sex
Yes, sex is a major part of the hotwife lifestyle, but hotwifing offers other benefits, like emotional and psychological fulfillment. Many in the lifestyle describe increased empowerment, personal growth, and much deeper bonds with their partner. Let’s mark this hotwife lifestyle myth as only partially true since hotwifing has so many more benefits than just sex.
Hotwifing Is Just for Highly Sexual Women
Many believe that the hotwife lifestyle is only suitable for women with a very high sex drive and have an adventurous sexual appetite. The truth is, regardless of sexual preferences, frequency, or sex drive, any woman could be drawn to the hotwife lifestyle. She may be drawn to it because of the trust it takes between her and her partner, the exploration value, and more open communications with her partner that the hotwife lifestyle can bring.
Women Only Become a Hotwife Because Their Husbands Are Lesser Men
Some people believe that a wife becomes a hotwife simply because her husband can’t satisfy her sexually. This is far from the truth. Think back to when you were dating. Did you only date one person? Did you enjoy the variety of sexual partners you had? Because you dated more than one person, did that make one or more lesser sex partners?
Hotwifing is about sexual exploration and sharing sexual experiences together. I could go on and on. But let’s cut to the chase. Have you ever heard of reclaiming sex?
Reclaiming sex is when the hotwife’s husband reclaims her from one of her dates. The sex is usually the most passionate, raw, animalistic, and mind-blowing sex there is. Some women even become a hotwife for the sole purpose of getting to enjoy the wild reclaiming sex when she returns home to her husband.
The Husband Is Always in Control of His Wife
It is a big misconception that the hotwife lifestyle revolves around the husband’s desires and is in total control of the relationship. In reality, many women in the hotwife lifestyle report that the lifestyle makes them feel empowered and gives them total control over their hotwife experiences.
A quality hotwife relationship, gives both partners mutual satisfaction, and they share and decide together, rules and boundaries. Some hotwife couples even have female led dynamics.
Jealousy Always Ruins Hotwife Marriages
Some people just assume that there is jealousy in a hotwife relationship, and that it will eventually ruin the marriage. Couples can actually thrive within the hotwife lifestyle by having open and honest communications, setting appropriate rules and boundaries, and reporting to each other any feelings of jealousy if it happens. Hotwife relationships are built around the couple feeling compersion for each other. Compersion being the feelings of joy from their partner’s happiness and excitement.
Hotwifing Is the Same as Cuckolding
The hotwife lifestyle and cuckolding are many times thought of as the same. This is a myth brought on by hotwife porn. It is far from the truth. Even though hotwifing and cuckolding have some overlap, they are two very distinctly different lifestyles.
Hotwifing focuses more on mutual pleasure and satisfaction, erotic exploration, and compersion.
Cuckolding focuses and is centered on humiliation or extreme power dynamics.
Never confuse these two distinct lifestyles. They are not one and the same.
The Hotwife Lifestyle Is Only for Promiscuous Women
Many people believe that the hotwife lifestyle is only for promiscuous women that can’t commit to a real relationship. In reality, commitment in a hotwife relationship is not defined by exclusivity. It’s defined by a very deep mutual trust, and boundaries that the couple set together. The hotwife dynamic expands on an already strong relationship.
All Hotwife Relationships Are the Same
Many people thing that all hotwife relationships are the same. This is actually laughable since it is extremely far from the truth. There are many degrees and versions of hotwifing. Each couple defines their own rules, boundaries, level of involvement, and individual motivations. There is no universal hotwife relationship template that all hotwife couples are required to fit into.
A Hotwife’s Husband Eats the Other Man’s Cum
This is an actual one that could have several different answers from false to true. Let me explain by giving you different examples of different sexual relationship dynamics.
Let’s start off with hotwife porn that in reality is mostly cuckold porn. This is most likely what stemmed this misconception that all hotwife husbands eat the other man’s cum. Hotwife porn usually portrays the husband being forced or told to clean his wife up after her bull either fills her with cum or cums all over her. The cuckold, in this case is ordered to clean up all the cum using his tongue and mouth only. It’s a power dynamic that can exist in some cuckold relationships. Just remember, cuckold and hotwifing can have some overlap, but they are two distinct lifestyles.
You will also find some couples that one or both of them have a cum kink and enjoy licking up and swallowing another man’s cum. This is a kink and is not really related to hotwifing. Of course, a hotwife couple could, and some do, enjoy a cum kink. Again, this is not really a hotwife dynamic.
In the vast majority of hotwife relationships, the woman cleans up after having sex with one of her bulls. When the husband reclaims her, he really never comes into contact with the other man’s cum, except maybe accidentally. Never deliberately.
Now there are hotwife stag/vixen relationships where the woman enjoys having two men at the same time in a sexual threesome. Of course, the two men will come in contact with each other while both are pleasuring the woman. They could accidentally come in contact with the other man’s cum. Let me explain how.
One man fucks the hotwife and needs a break so he can continue after a short rest. The other man may either start fucking her or orally pleasing her. Most likely the other man has produced pre-cum. The man eating her may and most likely will lick or swallow some without even knowing it. You will also see some threesomes were one of the men creampies her and the other attempts to lick and suck on her clit after. He may try his best to avoid the other man’s cum. But of course, he will most likely come in contact with it while licking and sucking on her clit.
These may be and are most likely 100% straight, but in a MFM threesome, there is a chance of accidentally swallowing some of the other man’s cum knowingly or unknowingly. This type of dynamic does best when neither man is even slightly homophobic. Even if both are 100% straight. In fact, most hotwife stag/vixen couples will not play with another man that is even slightly homophobic.
I would have to say that in general, this one is a myth with the above caveats, but occasionally, under certain sexual dynamics can be true. So, is it accidental, deliberate, or a kink? Could be all three. It’s just not really a hotwife lifestyle dynamic. Cum eating by both women and men is a sexual kink that some enjoy, while the majority do not.
The Hotwife Lifestyle Has No Risk of Emotional Complications
Just like any relationship, the hotwife lifestyle does come with risks of emotional complications. Many couples just getting ready to dip their feet into the hotwife lifestyle think that it’s just about sex, and they don’t worry or plan for the emotional side of hotwfing.
Hotwifing does in fact create emotional challenges from time to time. Couples must be able to cope with complex feelings, vulnerabilities, and the need for frequent reassurance to maintain a strong supportive relationship. Navigating and supporting each other’s emotions is crucial in a successful hotwife relationship.
Only Men Want a Hotwife Relationship
Some people assume that the hotwife lifestyle is only driven by the husband’s fantasies and desires. I am sure there are husbands that have a hotwife fantasy and pressure their wife into becoming a hotwife. But the majority of hotwife relationships are more about the wife’s fantasies and pleasures than the husband’s. Many women actively choose to live the hotwife lifestyle. They are the ones that actually brought up the idea to their husbands. They find the hotwife lifestyle very empowering and that it aligns more with their own sexual and emotional interests, desires, and needs.
The majority of women in the hotwife lifestyle are very strong women that would not just bow down to their husbands unless they wanted to. So, let’s label this one 90% false.
Non-monogamy Always Causes Relationship Problems
The myth that non-monogamy always causes relationship problems is believed by a lot of people. This includes that the hotwife lifestyle inevitably harms a couple’s relationship.
Research actually shows that couples who communicate openly about their sexual boundaries, feelings, and desires, can actually experience very strong emotional connections with each other. They also can experience improved trust, and higher relationship satisfaction.
It is true that hotwifing can destroy an already rocky relationship, but if hotwifing is based and built on a strong and solid relationship, the experiences can even improve a couple’s relationship.
Only the Hotwife Benefits From a Hotwife Relationship
Those that don’t understand the hotwife lifestyle or compersion, believe that only the wife benefits from this type of non-monogamous relationship. In reality, hotwifing is usually about shared experiences, mutual satisfaction, and strong emotional growth between her and her husband.
Both the hotwife and the husband can benefit from a well-planned hotwife relationship.
Final Thoughts
I hope that you enjoyed exploring these common hotwife lifestyle misconceptions and have learned a little more about what the hotwife lifestyle is and is not about.
